I grew up in a country where ” conventional love”s are not what we read on books ! If we are talking about Girl meets the Boy and falls in love , eventually gets married to him and lives happily there after – then YES with a twist!
In India ,where I grew up , families arrange marriage for their daughters and sons. They search for suitable bride/groom from their own caste,race,family background,horoscope matching , or by seeing skin color of the bride ,the singing, dancing, cooking ability of the bride. And that’s how almost every story is conventional, pretty conventional – People fall in love after marriage !..
Sometimes, there’s no time to know love..! Some other people ( mostly in-laws and elders in the family) decide an auspicious date for the couple to conceive baby . Once the couple have a baby- the strong family system there do not allow any individual decision on Love – Once you’re in a marriage, you have to fall in love, there’s no escape! Sometimes , two people just co-exist and call it a marriage ! Divorces in this kind of cases are rare because mostly the girls have no power , job and status .
I always wondered how people stay in love where staying in love is not a choice and where marriage is not a choice. In modern cities in India,its sometimes a debt a girl /boy pays back to the parents who support their education financially. I know many of my friends who did Masters and doctorate with their father’s money. It’s unconventional in the modern world where children are independent mostly while doing under-grad. I also don’t understand how a person selects his life partner just based on how much money ( dowry) the girl’s family will give him , or how a piece of paper called “horoscope” will make them a perfect couple!
My parents are happily married for 33 years and my grand parents just celebrated their 65th wedding anniversary. They are successful examples of happy arranged marriages.
But I broke the traditional path and married the man I loved. I could not think of an arranged marriage ever! My husband was first my friend, then best friend, then we fell in love , then decided to get married! – unconventional in my country and my little world! In an ideal world though that’s how a normal love story is born !But , not in my country!Still!
I ,though, wish that things change soon , two people breathe in love( only when they wish to!)….while searching the meaning of love by themselves ( without society pressure)..together..happily..forever!
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An afterword : [Even though women empowerment is at its best now, in India. Dowry system is still there in the country. I have seen my women colleagues saving hard earned salaries for their dowry! I have many highly educated friends who talk proudly supporting dowry , caste system , gender issues (for example, female foeticide, sati etc ) and many other dogmas still existing in a modern educated India. Divorces happen and women liberation ,empowerment etc are blamed . In our society in India, for every rape , every divorce, ever fight a couple have – girls are judged , at first!]