Do you have those days when you have lots to talk but once you try to open up your heart , your heart sinks ? Okay..that sounds melodramatic! But , actually , I am having those days..I have lots to write – 4 unfinished drafts are waiting for editing [ or to go to trash !] and still my thoughts are not yet ready to sync with keyboard!
Sometimes, the words you have within make so much sense that they do not want to come out in public. They stay in your heart and have deep conversations with the self ! Trust me , in the memory ,the best conversations I have , are the ones that I do with myself.
“Tea is the best drink in this world.” And my heart agrees.
“Emily Giffin is a great story teller.” My heart agrees and then there goes the long conversation about the book I read ” Love the one you’re with” to “Something borrowed “.
“Pizza should be declared the best food in the world. ” And my heart disagrees after a hard worked gym session. The battle to win over the heart continues.
“I ‘ll be a globetrotter at the age of 65. ” My heart whispers – ” Not now?why?”
“One day , there won’t be anything called patriarchy .” And my heart nods , hugging my thoughts , daydreaming of something that will never happen!
etcetera , etcetera.
I know , I have this little, long-running friendship with myself that mentioned in one of the posts in past.
Let me be more specific. You are very truthful when you are talking to yourself. There is hardly any time for drama , misunderstanding , lies. You do not have to save proofs to prove yourself too ! You know , sometimes, only you can see your real image ; the world is so full with itself that it hardly notices you and your real power , until you prove it! So , by talking to yourself more , you can find many different ways to make a “better you”.
I found two ways to comfort myself by conversations , during the stressful hours:
1.By stating the truth :
I feel much stronger , mentally and emotionally, when I mention to myself – “I am aware” and ” This is what I want from now.” If you’re truthful to yourself by that little conversation, nothing really affects much!
2. Having high regard for self :
I read a lot , plan a lot about things in the future. It helps me to stay confident. I have this faith about myself that once I know or feel confident about something, nothing can stop me from achieving my goal. It always helped!
There are only a few people with whom I can have healthy and happy conversations. One of them is my 8 year old niece , the all rounder and the strongest girl I know in my world. Talking to her , is ,many times , like talking to myself. We share many things [except blood relations ] – a straight forward mind ,our eternal love for fish , favorite songs etc . She joined us for dinner on Thursday and we heard all funny stories from her- about feminism , patriarchy and films. At times , she makes so sense that I wonder why elders do not go to her to learn about life!
In our family , whenever we are not doing anything , we are talking about films. This is the most popular conversation topic in my 100 member family. I find it amusing , since talking about films is far better than gossiping ! I would have loved talking about books – fictions and poetry, more too ; but I hardly get to meet book lovers in real life . So the stories in motion [ movies] are better options !
——————– Do you talk to yourself more often ? What do you love talking more about ,in real life ? What is your happiest family conversation topic? Do you think that children of this generation are wiser than us?
Update : Yesterday, I loved this post about feminism by one of my most favorite bloggers . Do not miss it.
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