Have you ever felt that your life has been a popular stage show and every other person wanted to rewrite your script? And maybe , you are actually not glossophobic but people think of you something like that because you choose to ignore things most of the times !
I felt something like that , that week . A very insignificant episode of life. But , insignificant things teach significant lessons.
I chose to use my vocal cord against something mean, something rude , a few words that were sharper than my new kitchen knife ! And I felt so good after my little protest!
In our house , we say – Nobody can define your life! To define someone’s life , you have to live in her /his shoes first!
I don’t feel sad by comments of people who are not close. I know this fact so much because I am an overeager peace making soul keen on observing trivial peace landmarks [ or maybe a mildest case of OCD that compels me to keep track of the flow of love and good moments in life ] .
Typically , I count insignificant things , like the high occurrence of “true love ” in any episode of How I Met Your Mother , the steps from my apartment to the nearest Tjmaxx store ( 257 in comfortable naturalizer shoes , 20 more in heels) . Or , as it was on that Monday , warm afternoon , exactly 67 days ago I read those rude things on my Facebook .
From the outside , say if you were a car driver watching a frantic walker scramble to cross the street in the final seconds before the light changed, it was only a mundane, snapshot : one stranger trying to read something on her phone, while holding her red umbrella , stopping to cross the intersection , making fleeting eye contact , and exchanging rigid but not unfriendly face before moving on her way.
But , inside was a pretty opposite scene .Inside ,I was reeling , breathless as I made it onto safety of Safeway store near my house. I was extremely angry because of those humiliating written words !
Today ,I wonder why I was so startled by the online encounter when there was something that seemed utterly inevitable at that moment.
Social media , electronic mails, text messages were invented to make communication easier. But , like those medicines ads with side effects , they carry other problems in a simple life ! For example , communication ! It’s so easy to make nasty comments on Facebook profile pictures , pass unnecessary judgments on the comment section while staying behind the mask . It’s easy to gossip about the neighbor who smiles at you every time you cross him ; you read his FB statuses , go through his pictures everyday and make him a “dinner time ” gossip.
It’s easy to pass rude comments on twitter when someone with the heritage of a wonderful country , for the first time ,becomes Miss America in her own country .
It’s easy to hide your poor general knowledge behind the Google search engine [ Really! You do not have to know the globe at all to deserve your “globally connected” status on social networking sites , nowadays! ]
It’s easy to write bad comments about the next election , government , policies on blogs , Facebook, twitter.
And those words are unreal !
Because real life is difficult.
Real events are not so easy to make !
It’s difficult to walk with someone on her journey path and pass judgmental comments after knowing her completely.
It’s difficult to call someone “Miss 7 11 ” if you know her history ,heritage , talent .
It’s difficult to rule a country perfectly while winning everyone’s heart .
Easy judgments were not so cheap before social networking. And , while the whole world may be on it , for now , but pretty soon , people will realize those worse side effects. So , today ,if you’re awaken , then watch your steps , ask your close ones if they are silently tormented by cyber-bullying , protest when someone gossips about their Facebook friends with you , stay away from ugly misinterpretations of poor knowledge about something on social media.
From what I see , I am sure protecting loved ones from online judgments is going to be just another social responsibility to keep this society healthy and beautiful.