Last three weeks were so hectic ; I was busy , so busy in doing everything I wanted to do for a long time. In my own world , the word “busy” has another meaning ; it means ” happy”.
BUSY == HAPPY.
I am happy when I am busy . When I am not busy or half-busy , I get bored and watch too many TV shows , eat out , eat more , go for a long walk , purchase unnecessary things ( for example , two kind of shampoos , lip gloss , different kind of yogurts!), call close people too many times.In other words , I TRY hard to make myself busy if I have free time.
Since yesterday , I am not that busy ; while discussing that with a close friend , I was asked ” How do you stay happy and emotionally independent while managing a perfect work life balance? ” I said ” I don’t”.
It’s true. I do not stay happy all the time. There are incidents when work does not go well , I expect too much from my career and a dream die a peaceful death , I get headache or tummy ache after skipping meal , get knee pain after missing gym for a week.
I do not feel happy when my best friend does not listen to words of wisdom I share just to protect her , and keeps talking negative things.
I get cranky if I see gender bias.
I get annoyed if I miss buying my favorite author’s newly published book on the day of its publishing.
I feel miserable when I see stain marks on a freshly washed dish.
I get mad when I see a woman humiliating someone from her own fraternity for no reason.
When I am very angry, I cry. When I am very very sad , I cry too . It’s okay to express your emotions.It’s okay to feel helpless when you know you have to stop fighting with your conscience.
But , I do not keep myself in sadness for long time. Life’s every lesson talks about moving on ! Right?
When I am sad , I watch my favorite comedy series , watch a rom-com , read a good book from my book-shelf ,drink my favorite black tea , read someone’s amazing blog , write something , click a flower from different angles . These are things I love doing in my life. These things make me happy. And when I am sad , I appreciate happiness more.
I have many friends who talk about law of attraction , about reading books on positive thinking. During one such conversation , I heard from one of my friends ,that things they read in books are impossible to follow in real life.
I never read self help books , but I asked her if she really tried to push herself out from her negative thoughts and sadness . She said – It’s easier said than done !
I asked her to get a hobby . And she said she would.
Yesterday, I saw her FB wall – description of frustrations and every negative thought she came across. And she had many partners to encourage her negative thoughts. I saw no solution there.
I had time to ask her if she found out any hobby . She said , she was too sad to get out of her usual routine and find something new.
Sometimes , we fall in love with our problems. And we give away a large part of our life in exchange.
I am not here to judge anyone. It may sound preachy , too simple , even bitchy when I say it. But, it’s our life ; sometimes , we have to sit alone and plan a To-Do list for our own well-being.We have to push ourselves harder to good things , real hobbies , real solutions.
This world is filled with good things and good people . But, the choice is ours – what /who we want to attract. It’s okay to feel sad ; but , maybe, not okay to remain closed in that state of mind for long. Most of the times , half of the problems exist in our mind and they vanish the minute we start treating them.
Focusing only on happiness may not be good ; focusing only on negative thoughts is not good too . Life is a bag of mixed emotions ,feelings ,laughter and tears! To appreciate one emotion, we have to know the taste of other emotions too.
I know , it’s not easy. Figuring out what we want , what expectation we want to set – are difficult. But , at the end of the day : Whose life is it anyway?