“The fact that love comes with expectations annoys me .”my friend M said to me.
“No, it sets you free , it makes you winner , everywhere! “I said to her, with eyes filled with teen-age hopes.
Several years later, during another meeting, we discussed that again, along with desolation, cohesion, expectation, favors whatever love carries with its glory. It was that time when internet friendship started. People started opening up their lives to strangers, writing every single thought [ or answers to “What’s on your mind? “] on statuses. A few of our friends started using “relationship status” section on social networking sites; suddenly the world was becoming more open about things that we used to keep within personal boundary.
“I don’t know from where they assemble trust in relationships these days !” , M indicated like a skeptical twenty-something soul.
“I don’t know how people feel love , fellowship in a virtual world. ” I emphasized, while noticing so many friends chasing love wherever they could .
I am always old fashioned about mixing life with technology; even though I played with microprocessors, semiconductors and did my daily readings of the technology journals on the internet. Friendship, love, to me, were always about reality; I have so many friends in real life that there is no void left to fill with virtual feelings.
Also on social networking sites, you can see only one dimension of a person, the dimension he/she wants to show. I have seen in my extreme close circle that many people act differently on social networking sites, write about feminism, liberal world while practicing something exactly opposite in real life, write about book readings while acknowledging lack of interest in that area in real life. I have seen crazily unhappy people posting happy pictures on Facebook. Many people use social networking to build an identity that they do not have and then they keep sacrificing their truth to build a mountain of lies. Luckily, all of these people who I could observe are real people. Seeing their drastic behavioral changes I knew the boundary to draw, beyond that surely I was convinced what and who not to believe.
” Never forget ,human beings are multi-dimensional ” – I kept reminding myself each time I saw any unreal virtual presence!
“I live a status-free life ” I replied whenever I was asked about my Facebook absence.
I am not much active on social networking sites , that’s one of the reasons that my blog readership could not cross 1000 milestones in this year. I am also not good at blog commenting, blog -hopping, though I read almost 500 WordPress posts every week. I use WordPress to write my opinions and stories , see how words heal hearts , join other photographers to frame the world and share the world I see . I cared for every single detail , I created this place with love . I am glad the way it worked for almost a year.
Blogging is beautiful because it opens new directions of wisdom, experiences. It’s a space where creating narration using words is more important than building identity. You can be anyone, but if you’re opinionated, you’re welcome with open hearts. You do not have to build window dressing everyday to show something that you are not; you do not have to judge your readers or writers who you read; it’s not social networking; it’s mostly about celebration of words and thoughts.
I started blogging when no one I knew was doing it. I stopped blogging in 2009 because I could not manage time properly. The comeback in this year was not easy. I was new to WordPress and out of territorial blogging-fellowship.
Last week , I checked the dashboard – the comments , followers ,interactions that started from March this year. It didn’t feel like I failed. I did not want to gain anything from blogging [ What do you gain from your hobby?- Peace , maybe!] But when I looked back, I saw love, so much love in reader’s comments, in their faith in my posts and photographs; I saw friendship in each encouraging word. I am pretty sure of the magic of love that remains the driving force behind every post I write.
After having a tough phase, last week I read a wonderful comment from the fellow blogger, Itty ; it left me teary-eyed; I shared her words about my blog with my husband, close family and closest friends. That day I felt how virtual world blends with reality, how one feels friendship in a world that you cannot see, touch, hear or smell . I broke my week long silence that day and wrote a post finally.
I know what and who I gained through blogging.
You .Your readership. And this unseen camaraderie .
Words can shuffle minds, exaggerate people, regenerate faith, change the way we perceive and create a wonderful world for us. You know what, after reading posts and comments, I know now what to search in next year: Happiness through words and wonders.
A few comments from the blog world that made my year brighter : ~
In case you missed the point I wanted to make, in case no one told you yet: it’s good to articulate your inner and outer world through writing [ or blogging ]; it makes the world closer and makes you feel more loved! Also this is something I learned- sometimes it’s easier to understand ourselves by reading our own words ; never forget that the best friendship still is the one that we have with ourselves .