Do you ever feel like putting a copyright notice on your thoughts, and, maybe, your dreams? Do you come across real people with amazing dreams? Do you come across people who show no interest in your dreams until you find out your dreams on their social networking statuses?
Sometimes I wish this world was less complicated. And less tangled.
I met such people who steal others dreams, thoughts, aspirations. There were moments, real moments with them; they heard my thoughts, discarded my aspirations without a hint of remorse. Then there were moments when I found my dreams, thoughts as their Facebook statuses. I wish I could question them about the copyright infringement.
I remember one incident. There was this girl, with tidy house and untidy morale. She once told me reading was so uncool. Listening to soft music was uncool. And living a life independently was so against some beliefs. We knew each other well. I knew why reading was uncool for her. She could not proceed to the 3rd page of any book. It happens. Not everyone goes to Moon. Aspirations differ. There are multiple hobbies and interests in the society. We are not similar and that’s the beauty of this world.
A few years ago, on her Facebook I found her copying my words. Same thoughts and stories from my life. I thought she never liked me. My stories got her instant social networking recognition. Likes and all, by people who had enough time to devote their lives to Facebook. Instant fame on virtual world is easy nowadays. Sometimes It all needs big words and applauds. A month ago, she was asking about book recommendations and posting book talks. People change. I know that. But I know the fact too that she still reads one magazine per year.
I don’t know how people do this. How long can anyone show inauthentic aspirations, aspirations that do not belong to her? How can anyone steal others dreams and thoughts? Then I remember she also bought big glasses though her eye sight was normal. She wanted to be like me, without real efforts and without acknowledging my endeavors.
When I was growing up, wearing big glasses was necessity. It was never a style statement. I was also not standing out in a crowd because my growing up years were spent with the obsessive geeks; those people who multiplied 139 by 168 within ten seconds and wore high powered glasses. Then the same lot arrived in corporate sector and had to transform to fit in the crowd. Contact lenses replaced those big glasses. Braces were thrown away, classy outfits and etiquette were welcomed. Now some of my friends look like super models, by taking care of their fitness. You really cannot judge a person by his/her outfits anymore. That cliche is gone. I like the changed mindset we own now. It’s good that everything blended in the society. Geeks who bring revolutions look like normal people, even while wearing glasses.
I still prefer my glasses. But those powered glasses do not make me intelligent. Perhaps my academic records do. Or, maybe, I am still a work in progress. But the fact remained that I never tried to look someone that I am not. One of my finest aspirations have been- being myself. I never wanted to be that super model on Vogue cover, or the dream stealing wannabe I know! No one can survive by being someone else, I understood that from very young age.
Someone once told me, “People can steal your thoughts and dreams. But people cannot become you.” Real dreams are the ones that make you chase them every day. Inauthentic dreams just look good on words, in virtual world. Then they fade, because unlike the virtual world of social networking, the real world is real, brutal and difficult. Here sometimes you shape your dreams, sometimes you kill them to make path to a newer one. Here you cannot fake anything for long time. You cannot be happy by being someone else. What are you going to talk if you do not own your life and dreams?
In real life, we can stay real while accepting every storm that passes by. That’s the challenge that life throws at us. Even though it’s tough but there’s so much joy in participating in that challenge. I love the fact that I am the best when I am myself.